The gift of being the scapegoat

Yes there is a blessing in disguise in being the scapegoat of the family. You might not believe it to be true, but hear me out…

Since the narcissistic family runs on a rigid hierarchy, centred on the narcissistic parent, all of the shame ran down hill. If you were the scapegoat, the muddy rain waters collected and stagnated at the bottom with you.

The good news is you have a once in a generational chance to “drain the swamp”, meaning steering the family dynasty in a more healthy direction. Whether you believe in God or not, He has given you the ultimate test: heal yourself and change the world.

The scapegoat superpower

The scapegoat also has a superpower: the ability to imagine and create. Look at the various YouTubers who talk about narcissistic personality disorder, how many of them believe in the law of attraction? Almost all of them.

Why? Since narcissists are attracted to them by who they were, they changed spiritually and thus, unlocked the true “Secret”. Are you an artist? Writer? Singer? There’s your proof of your superpowers.

Pity the golden child.

Really. Pity them, for they’re stuck with the unconscious soul bond with their narcissistic parent: do as I say, when I say and I’ll sort you out with gifts. They have chosen to sacrifice their true self to cater to the whims and wishes of their mentally unstable parent. Just don’t mention what will happen to them when the parent dies, or the parent turns on them when the scapegoat leaves…

You, dear scapegoat, was handed a life sentence from birth, but have also been given the keys to freedom. All you have to do is pick yourself up, use them to free yourself and unlock the prison of your mind.

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4 réflexions sur “The gift of being the scapegoat

  1. Michel.
    I was a scapegoat and a outsider all when it came to my family and my secondary because my mum, aunty and the school told me that I would leave school with no qualifications and I proved them wrong because despite all the bullshit that I have been through in school like bullying from other kids, teachers telling me that I would be a failure in life because I wasn’t academic and family members telling me that I would go to prison and be a deadbeat dad because I wasn’t Mister perfect in their eyes, I still managed to leave secondary school with 7 GCSEs (grades C D and Es). I also achieved 2 GNVQs and 2 business degrees from the University of West London. Also I am a childfree black man at 37 with no criminal record. I am the living proof that anything is possible in this life if you put your mind to it and remain positive. 😊😊😊

    J’aime

    1. Quincy,

      Ahh, family – they hate your guts obviously, however society likes to just add to your already full plate of misery.

      Again it’s through adversity that we learn to prove ourselves right. I left high school with 2/10 GCSEs at grade C. I had homework torn up in front of the whole class. I’ve been the subject of abuse by « friends », teachers, randomers and even girls. Yet two years ago I achieved my Master’s on top of bachelor’s degree.

      Scapegoats go through some really dark and life changing shit just to get to climb to point zero. But the true spiritual gift is being made of steel. Walk softly with an iron rod, mate.

      J’aime

      1. Michel.

        Well done and congrats for getting your masters degree. I know that getting a degree is hard work and sacrifice especially if you work full time and study part time, I know through personal experience and when I started my university course I had my supervisor and manager tried to stop me from doing my course because they felt I didn’t have the ability to cope with juggling a full time job with a part time uni course in the evenings. Needless to say that I achieved my Foundation Degree Business Management in 2013 and my BA(Hons) Business Studies Degree in 2015 and I proved them all wrong and I pulled it off.

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