(Image: Ukkasyah Quwwatulha) The experience of healing from narcissist abuse is exhausting. The metaphor of climbing out of a deep pit couldn't have been better said. Life gave me such a handicap, it may as well been the pit from hell. Whereas some people start off with certain advantages, most of us can clearly point … Lire la suite de It’s not fair!
Yes there is a blessing in disguise in being the scapegoat of the family. You might not believe it to be true, but hear me out... Since the narcissistic family runs on a rigid hierarchy, centred on the narcissistic parent, all of the shame ran down hill. If you were the scapegoat, the muddy rain … Lire la suite de The gift of being the scapegoat
No matter who it was - it may have been your mother, father, sibling, or it might have been the partner that was supposed to be close to you. It doesn't matter how deep you think the relationship is either. Time to ditch the lies and tell you an uncomfortable truth: You never had a … Lire la suite de You never had a relationship with the narcissist
Let 2019 be the year that we break free from our narcissist-imposed prison to nurturing and sustaining self love. Use this New year as your promise to feed yourself the love you deserve. Useful tools (Vortex Success): Toxic Shame Healing Setting Boundaries Recover from Abusive Childhood
Loneliness hurts. A great deal more than we think. In one of his excellent YouTube video messages, author and psychotherapist Ross Rosenberg (The Human Magnet Syndrome) gives a very valuable insight into the condition of feeling lonely within (and without) the narcissist regime... and it could have serious consequences. He describes the effect of separating … Lire la suite de The pain (and salvation) of loneliness
Being beaten With the belt With the coat hanger wire With the electric cable With the slipper With the newspaper With the broom handle Being beaten For forgetting For remembering For speaking out For speaking in For being quiet For crying To stop crying For standing up For sitting down For being there For being … Lire la suite de Being beaten
Maybe we can learn something from the narcissist after all. Despite the shameless behaviour and outright lack of empathy and emotional connection, they have one positive thing they can teach their targets of their abuse. What is that one thing? Take that shine. Narcissists are angels in disguise, unfortunately for them, they just don't realise … Lire la suite de Take that shine