Yep, not all of your haters are random folk passing by in the course of your life, but the ones in your very midst. So, what to do when your haters are family? Chances are if youte the scapegoat, they already are hating on you big time. But extended family? Yep See, the narcissist family … Lire la suite de When the haters are family… →

Had the abuse not happened... Had the years of stolen childhood never occurred... What could have I achieved in that time? What kind of experiences should I have had by now? More successes, less failures? A stable and lucrative career? Several partners? A family of my own, with a loving wife? Assets to my name? … Lire la suite de What could have been… →

Here are a following of indicators of childhood abuse, from Hypnosis Downloads. If one or more of these happened to you as a child: criticizing every little thing you do, no matter how innocent bad mouthing you to others constantly mocking and belittling you telling you you're stupid and don't know what's what threatening you … Lire la suite de 6 Ways You Were Emotionally Abused As A Child →

I am here not out of love, but out of need. Her need... I'm going to be biased. Narcissistic mothers are the worst. They were with you at your most vulnerable, and they grew up alongside you, fed, clothed and, schooled you. They know your character the best, even better than yourself. They know every … Lire la suite de No one hurts you quite like a narcissist mother →

[Image: Segopotso Makhutja] Sometimes questions surface spontaneously in the mind of a narcissist survivor of the family regime. Here's one of them: Why were we selected? The answer came as quickly as the question: Because we’re strong. Why were we chosen for this horrendous, soul rape? We were chosen because we have a spirit within … Lire la suite de Are we the chosen ones for abuse? →

Forgiveness. Hard as hell to do and to contemplate. Why in the hell should I forgive the years and years of being denigrated, abused and attacked, scapegoated, mocked, humiliated, stuffed into a corner, treated like dog shit and made to feel less than? Simply, it wasn't my fault. Period. Treating another person like that is … Lire la suite de On forgiveness →

(Image: Ukkasyah Quwwatulha) The experience of healing from narcissist abuse is exhausting. The metaphor of climbing out of a deep pit couldn't have been better said. Life gave me such a handicap, it may as well been the pit from hell. Whereas some people start off with certain advantages, most of us can clearly point … Lire la suite de It’s not fair! →

As a child living in an narcissistic family, I was blind to the intricate spider web of control by the narcissist mother. But the most infuriating thing I've realised upon waking up to the codependency is the lost years of growing into independence. How in the hell can a young boy learn to grow up … Lire la suite de Waking up to independence →

Yes there is a blessing in disguise in being the scapegoat of the family. You might not believe it to be true, but hear me out... Since the narcissistic family runs on a rigid hierarchy, centred on the narcissistic parent, all of the shame ran down hill. If you were the scapegoat, the muddy rain … Lire la suite de The gift of being the scapegoat →

No matter who it was - it may have been your mother, father, sibling, or it might have been the partner that was supposed to be close to you. It doesn't matter how deep you think the relationship is either. Time to ditch the lies and tell you an uncomfortable truth: You never had a … Lire la suite de You never had a relationship with the narcissist →